Monday, December 14, 2009
Garden of Gifts
It is also an art to receiving a garden tour. I've been to the home of several gardeners who take pride in their choice of plantings. Some have made a concious effort to lay out a garden area or landscaping, purposfully selecting plants for their color and, growing habits or for their benefits to ecology. Other people plant according to the advice of friends or photos from magazines, perhaps not knowing the names of the plants chosen. I enjoy them all, listening to how each person describes his personal landscape.
Perhaps you are one of those rare individuals who doesn't even care about plants. But even if you do not care much for plants, you probably care about the person who is with you. By listening and asking the right questions, you will learn about the hopes and dreams of the gardener. What are her favorite colors, muted or bright? Is he a free spirit or very organized? Adventurous or good at research and learning from what others have found.
Friendships and familial relationships are nourished in my garden. People give and take according to each of our personalities. The best relationships depend not only in giving what is needed, but in recieving what is given. We take what our friends and family offer, not always because we like the gift but, also, because we like the person.